Considering Success in Marriage
Your success in marriage depends largely upon having sound and constructive attitudes toward love. For Americans, this can be difficult. Especially because of the fictions we've been taught since childhood, which are supported by movies and other cultural influences. In fact, the love upon which so many base their marriages is one or a combination of the following:
1. The appeal of the romance and adventure of marriage itself
2. The response to a person who reminds them of some one whom they have loved
3. The desire to escape from an unhappy situation
4. Consolation for failure or disappointment
5. Social pressures and/or the fear of being "left on the shelf"
6. Sexual desires
7. Some minor point of attraction
These forms of love are not false - they are very real. Often, they are intense enough to give a person an overwhelming feeling of certainty about marriage. And some of them - such as numbers 1, 6 and 7 - have a proper place in marriage.
Their danger is that they are superficial. No single one of them, or all of them together, is strong enough to constitute the foundations of a successful marriage. Yet these deceive people who believe that "love is enough" into choosing unsuitable mates.
Love which can make a marriage rich and worthwhile must go far deeper. It must be based upon such things as common interests, ideals, values, and goals which involve worthy purposes. A common desire to have and raise happy and healthy children is among the strongest and most important of these common goals. Such a love is not something which you "fall in" before you marry.
Rather, it is something which you build together through the years. Those who have found a sounder base for love wil find that the thrill, glow, and romance of their marriage increases over time. The richest joy of marriage comes from a relationship with each other which constantly develops and matures. The deepest and most abiding love is that which has become an expression of all life's experiences and meanings for you both.
Chuck Smith is the owner and webmaster of Wedding Home Pages, where you can download a professionally-designed wedding template for your special day. Visit Wedding Home Pages for the wedding web site of your dreams.
Latest News
Same-sex couple celebrates 1st wedding anniversary Chicago Tribune, United States - By AMY LORENTZEN | AP Writer DES MOINES, Iowa - Looking back on their first year of marriage, Sean Fritz and Tim McQuillan speak of their new puppy, ... Gay Iowa couple marks first year of marriage |
 Washington Post | Pioneering lesbian rights activist dies just weeks after wedding Independent, UK - In later years, Mrs Martin was at the forefront of the long-running campaign for same-sex marriage. At her wedding to Mrs Lyon in May, which was broadcast ... US lesbian pioneer, 87, dies months after wedding Lesbian Activist, Pioneering Journalist Del Martin Lesbian rights pioneer Del Martin dies at 87 |
For a happy marriage, get cashed up NEWS.com.au, Australia - How many hours were spent practising the wedding waltz? As if anything could possibly go wrong. Sadly, almost 48000 couples found that it did go wrong in ... |
 Now Magazine Online | Guy denies renewing wedding vows Times of India, India - But the filmmaker is adamant they won''t be heading down the aisle for a second time - because their lavish 2000 marriage in the Scottish Highlands was all ... Guy Ritchie: I won't renew my marriage vows with Madonna |
 St. Louis Post-Dispatch | Same sex couple says I do online St. Louis Post-Dispatch, United States - ... married in the wedding chapel in the San Mateo County courthouse. Breeden's parents, who flew out from Indiana, were there for the same-sex marriage. ... |
Marriage Licenses Going Up KVEO-TV, TX - By Kenny Lopez If you're getting hitched in Texas, get ready to face a stiffer fee, when buying a marriage license. With rings, wedding cakes, tuxedos, ... |
5 times 50: A wedding band of brothers Hays Daily News, KS - However, David Popenoe of the Marriage Project at Rutgers University said he doesn't know of any definitive study with that information. ... |
Wedding~Henkhaus Alton Telegraph, IL - The couple will be united in marriage at 3 pm Saturday, September 13, 2008 at Evangelical United Church of Christ in Godfrey. The reception will be held at ... |
Dramatic changes in our rates of births, deaths and marriages Irish Times, Ireland - On top of all this, and despite a fashionable belief that marriage may be on the way out, we are in fact also experiencing a wedding boom. ... |
Novato woman who took same-sex marriage case to high court weds Marin Independent-Journal, CA - Novato resident Therese Stewart (left) and her partner, Carole Scagnetti, smile at their wedding reception at San Francisco City Hall on Friday. ... |
Resources
-
Wedding Vows, Marriage Vows
Proven Wedding and Marriage vows.
-
Free Personals with photos - International Marriage site
matrimonials with pictures. Post your matrimonial for free and browse though photo personals to find your mate, bride, groom. Matrimonial service for people looking for love, romance and Marriage.